SANDRA: Is it okay to ask a guy to give me money for my hair? I felt bad after asking him for money.
Don’t ask a guy for any money. It makes you vulnerable and easily controlled.
And if he buys you a very expensive gift, especially for no apparent reason, turn it down. If he really loves you he will stay.
Dating him doesn’t mean you are marrying him. There is a possibility you will both need to go separate ways if you are incompatible.
When you keep receiving his money you will keep losing your power to say no to sex or even to move on when you think it’s not working.
I’ve counselled many girls who married abusive, cheating or controlling men, and they say,
“Moffat, I knew he was a cheat. But I looked at all the things he had done for me – he had paid my college fees and many other things – you know, he had been there when I needed him.
I just couldn’t leave him like that, so I said ‘Yes’ and he promised he would change. But now, I’m tired I don’t wanna lie. I just want to call it quits!”
Never ask a guy for anything, if he is generous and considerate he will do it without being asked.
When he buys a gift kindly say, “You don’t have to do this, but you did it and it means a lot to me. Thank you.”
And if you can afford, buy something for him too next time.
He is your Boy“friend” – and no friend has a duty to pay for your hair, send you to school or stock your refrigerator.
A friend is not a husband neither is he a Dad. Let’s not abuse each other in the name of love…
I will answer this issue more deeply the next question…
