SEBASTIAN: I believe God created sex for enjoyment and for that reason I don’t think sex is wrong: What are the effects of sex before marriage?
Sexual feelings are like a fire. That is why Backstreet sang,
“You are… my Fire – my one, desire…”
Even the Bible says
“sexual love is as strong as death, and its coals are coals of fire that blaze with the strongest flames!”
– Songs of Solomon 8.6 smf.
Now fire is a good servant but a bad master.
Sex is like a fire. The proper place for a fire is the fire place. If you start a fire on the carpet, it will burn the whole house, and you will hate the day you ever learned about fire.
Marriage is the fireplace for a fire called sex. If you do it anywhere else then you are setting your whole life up in flames. It will produce results that will make you wish you never had feelings for anyone in your life.
I have met young man who have had their marriages broken, lives shortened, money and riches lost – and they each say
“Sir Moffat, Sometimes I just wish God had never made sex. It is sweet but see how it has ruined my life.” And I tell them,
“Sex is not the problem, the problem is you lit a fire on the carpet rather than in the fire place, and because of that the fire has burned down the whole house.”
Marriage is the fireplace of your life; in that fireplace you are very free and very safe to start the fire of sex and keep it burning forever.
Young man, just do this right and you will be happy! 🙂 Even God shall be with you in that “fire” and He will give your spine strength to keep that fire burning. 🙂
To women: I have also met women who can’t forgive themselves for losing their virginity. They thought it wasn’t special till they lost it.
It was a mistake, and they don’t want you to go through it. They tell me Sir Moffat, advise girls who are younger than us that…
Sex is overrated. Sex with a man who hasn’t married you only makes you feel used and abused.
No man is special enough to open a seal of a woman he hasn’t married and committed to love forever!
Money, sweet words, handsome looks, six pack muscles on his belly and bags of lies will never make any man that special, never! That man thinks too highly of himself, and he is a liar!
For over ten years now, I have run special love and relationships seminars that focus on avoiding heartbreaks, finding true love and keeping good relationships happily running.
At times I run special ones for women and those for men. Experience has taught me that there is certain advice you can only best give to women in the absence of men, and only best give to men in the absence of women.
There is also advice you can only best give to virgins in the absence of non-virgins, and vice versa. If you always bundle up people in your seminars like I used to do in my amateur days, you end up breaking one group down while trying to build the other one up.
“If I refuse my boyfriend sex, won’t he leave me for someone else?” That’s the question a lady called Sarah asked during one of my love and relationships seminars.
This was a seminar specifically for women, so I had the opportunity to expose all men’s minds without embarrassing any man.
I told Sarah any man who leaves you because you refused him sex before marriage is showing that he clearly values sex more than he values you.
Leaving you actually means
“I rather have sex without you, than have you without sex.”
That means
If we put you and sex on a scale, to him sex has far more weight than you. He can dump you for sex. He can cheat on you for sex. He can be kind to you NOt for you but for sex. It’s not about you, it’s all about him.
That’s the type of guy who can’t be faithful on the days that your sex drive is low. That’s the guy who doesn’t have the patience to wait just a while enough till your menstruation days are over.
Even if you marry him, the days you say No because you can’t manage will send him off running for other women.
That’s not the type of guy you want to keep in your life. You are worth more than that.
You are so worth more than that, to an extent that you rather be alone than be with him even if he was the only guy left in the whole world.
As I write in my upcoming book Ssh it’s Girl Talk: Strictly No Men Allowed as Moffat Speaks to Women… About Men
“There are certain types of men you should thank God they left, no matter how badly your heart wanted them to stay.”
– Moffat Machingura | Ssh It’s Girl Talk
You are afraid that he will leave you, but you should actually be afraid of how much he will continue to devalue you if he stays.
I have met countless women whose lives were ruined by this sweet thing called sex. Many amazing women have been impregnated and dumped.
Left alone and desperate, some tried abortion and lost all their fertility in the process; some aborted successfully only to sadly realize abortion doesn’t make you a girl again, it only makes you a mother of a dead child.
Some of those women were infected with diseases that shortened their lives; countless had to drop out of school no matter how intelligent they were, and they were doomed to live in poverty as lifetime dependents to the very same kind of men who only care about sex and not its consequences.
I say THAT MUST STOP! If a man says come “let’s start a fire (sex)”, tell him “first let’s get to the fireplace (marriage)”.
God made sex. Sex is good. God’s problem is not that people are having sex, the problem is where you are having sex and with whom.
God wants you to have as much sex as possible; as long as you are having it in its proper place called marriage and with the right person called your wife/husband. And it’s easy!
Happy sex to everyone! 🙂
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