NICK: My girlfriend wants us to meet every day. She stays close by so travelling is easy. But I fear what if we lose interest in each other? Isn’t that possible?
Hi Nick! We think we can get bored by our girlfriends, but we never get bored by our male friends that we have learnt with or worked with for years. Do you know why…?
It’s because most times we treat our girlfriends as our girls when they are actually our friends. Your girlfriend is your friend. She is just a girl but she is your friend.
When you are together stop trying to be these “lovers” in a Hollywood movie or soap opera and just be “friends”. Play games, talk about other things in this world other than yourselves. Be real.
Get social. Visit people. Find time alone. Talk about politics, business, the film you watched yesterday, the story you heard and also remember the funeral next door… 🙂
Then about twenty minutes to saying goodbye, you can switch to the romantic guy that you really are. You can just start by telling her you have got to go.
You had a great fun, and she is the best person to be with. If you had accompanied her for a church singing practice and you heard her sing, this is the time to say,
“Wow love, for the first time today I heard you sing, and O my God you have the sweetest voice in the world!”
During the day be friends, when you’re about to go home be romantics. The real part of every relationship is friendship, romantic talk is just an icing on the cake.
Friends will always find each other interesting because they go anywhere, do any task, and talk about anyone – together. It is distancing yourself from your girlfriend that will actually reduce your interest in each other.
If you don’t hear from your partner in two to three days, already you can feel that your connection is weakening. When you meet you have to crank conversation again.
If you really click with someone and if the love you are giving is mature – you will never get bored with that person.
If seeing each other every day can make you bored, then your relationship is unfit for marriage. Marriage is seeing each other every day. 🙂
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