CADEN: I really want to be a good man who is faithful to his wife if it is possible.
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My question before I’m married is just this one… Can a man be really satisfied with one woman?
Hi Caden. You want to be a good and faithful man, I am proud of you and one day it won’t just be me – it will be your wife and children too. I have met some husbands who never cheated and, upon asking how they did it, one said,
“My father told me on his death bed – son, I have lived with your mother. We had our down and up days but this is what kept your mother as the happy and young-looking woman you see today – I never even for a day cheated on your mother.
I refused to give in to that urge. Your mother and all of you were more important than that urge.”
When you are good and faithful, you make it easier for your children to be good and faithful too.
Now to answer your question; Can a man be really satisfied with one woman? Well… I’ve never met a man who has been satisfied with two women either, or four women or even sixteen.
King Mswati of Swaziland currently has more than fifteen wives and he is still unsatisfied.
King Solomon went as far as three hundred wives and seven hundred concubines – still he wasn’t satisfied.
Some men are cheating on their wives with one more woman, some with countless prostitutes and one night stands. Ask them why and they say,
“I wasn’t satisfied…”
“So are you satisfied now…”
He bursts out laughing at himself, “These things are just a weakness Sir Moffat, you can never be satisfied…”
It takes him breaking down his family and losing his wife’s respect to finally realize pursuing sexual satisfaction is as foolish as pursuing a mirage in the desert.
You see an oasis in the sands, you run after it because you think it will quench your thirst, only to realize when you get there that the oasis is only in your eyes. You lose a marriage for a mirage.
In my book From Manpower to Mindpower I write that sexual energy is NOT meant to be satisfied by sexual activity alone.
Some studies actually say that the poorest nations are the most sexually active.
That shows, amongst other things, poverty could be a result of misdirected energies.
Sexual energy serves a greater purpose in our lives than just sexual gratification. It is the life energy. It is the energy to dream and pursue great dreams.
It is the energy for focus and inventiveness.
Therefore it is not a matter of being satisfied by one woman, rather it is matter of being content with one woman.
One woman is enough for a healthy sexual life.
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