RILEY: How can I keep my husband happy?
Hi Riley. Keeping a man happy is not the same as making a man laugh. Sleeping together and bedroom positions can give a man pleasure but that doesn’t mean it has given him happiness.
Let me give you the real five things that make a man happy…
i) Praise Him:
If you are scared to praise your man because you think he will develop an uncontrollable ego – then either he will build that ego on his own or another woman will. Sadly, you can’t control an ego you didn’t help to build.
Every man is weak towards the woman who makes him strong.
If you want to be the most influential person in a man’s life just become his source of praise.
Almost every man’s problem is self-confidence, especially those who appear to be the most confident.
Tell him,
“You can do this, I know you can…”
“I believe in you…”
“Just take a rest and fight back…”
“Just believe in yourself as much as I believe in you, you will make it…”
“That’s just fear trying to blind you from seeing the amazing man you really are – I think if you want it go for it – you are good enough for it…”
“Do you know your problem my man? Your problem is sometimes you forget who you are! You are a star!”
Every man has an ego. You can’t control an ego you never created. Trying to crush a man’s ego is the same as asking him to show you his life’s exit door.
ii) Need Him:
I once heard one woman tell her husband “It’s NOT like I can’t do it on my own you know, I’m just asking you to do it for me because I’m busy that’s all…”
The last time I heard, they were on separation. A man can’t stay where he feels unneeded.
I once heard one lady tell her husband, “If you don’t want to do it then don’t” and the man said “It’s fine I will never do it.”
Let me tell you the truth, almost every man wants to be a hero to his woman. Heroism is part of masculine nature.
But Superman only goes where he hears the cry for help. If you act like you don’t need him then you will never discover the superman in him.
Everyone at his workplace and in your neighbourhood will envy you for the amazingly kind and reliable superman they always find in your husband – but you will never see it or even suspect it to be true.
When you are hurt, cry on his chest. When you are down, walk over to him and hold him tight. E
ven if you earn more, ask him for some money to do your hair. Show your man you need him and you have just shown him the reason to stay.
Men have a weakness for the damsel in distress.
iii) Look Great:
A sexy body and a beautiful dress goes a long way in keeping the flames of love blazing bright.
Do your friends normally compliment the way you dress? No??? That means when it comes to dressing you really need help.
Buy some fashion magazines and learn the latest trends. Join the gym too; a nice body makes clothes fit better.
Find a twenty-four-hour protection deodorant. Also remember shaving the armpits helps make the deodorant last longer.
It’s true that real love is more than skin deep. But the body is the receptionist of the soul; before he gains interest in your soul he first has to be attracted to your body.
iv) Respect Him:
There is a difference between love and respect. To love is to find someone desirable and to respect is to find someone valuable.
To love is to wish you had something, to respect is to wish you will never lose it. Respect begins when you make in your mind that you want him to stay.
Respect can also be defined as how valuable a person feels because of you. Beware how you joke, men are sensitive to jokes. You may think it’s just a jest when you are actually making him look stupid.
Never rebuke him in public. And please stop bringing up his Exes or telling he is no different from his mother.
Disrespect devalues a person, while respect makes a person feel valuable.
v) Be Happy:
It is only the joy you give to yourself that you can give to others. Joy is contagious, and so is sorrow.
Always focus on how good life could turn out to be. No matter what rough patch life is taking you through, play beautiful music and sing along to it while you do your chores.
When a woman sings in the house, she suddenly becomes beautiful to her husband – it’s not her voice that attracts him, it’s her joyfulness.
If you want to keep your man happy, keep yourself happy.
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