MIA: Should you be holding on to a marriage because of your kids when you are unhappy in it?
Hi Mia, studies show that people who divorce are most likely to divorce again when they marry.
This is because sometimes divorce is more than just letting go, divorce could be a sign that you withdraw from unhappy situations rather than to try and bring a solution to them.
When Will Smith was talking about his divorce, he confessed that he gave up too quickly. I’m sure, after getting married to someone else, he realized marriages can only be different if people in it choose to change and be different people.
Every marriage has a hundred percent chance of being successful if it is taught and follows the right principles.
I advise you to consult a skilled marriage counsellor who can help you pinpoint exactly what is lacking in your marriage.
What is pulling you apart could be the way you communicate, the fact that you are busy at work or that you have never set down together to write a family vision for your lifetime and goals for the year.
I also advise you to read three amazing books that could change your marriage forever:
- The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman;
- Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood, and
- Answers for Your Marriage by Carol and Bruce Britten.
A simple search on the internet will lead you to these books. There is so much hope for joy in your marriage.
