LOGAN: How do you tell that you have found your soul mate; the one you would spend your entire life with?
Hi Logan, when you say “soul mate” I roll my eyes. That’s because “soul mate” is over rated, if you are too serious with finding a person who completes you, you can actually miss that person.
Most times the best relationships are the ones we find when we are not even searching.
NB: A soul mate is far from what you think or are taught. There is no particular person at the end of the universe, furnished to be yours and yours alone.
A mate is a friend, so a soul mate is just that person who comes into your life and your souls become amazing friends.
If you are patient, you will meet such a person.
There is no single formula
Someone can come into your life in a most unexpected way; maybe in a train, bus, workplace, church or you may sit next to each other in a plane.
That person will break your focus, you will start chatting, and when you stand up from there you both know you met someone special.
Sometimes it’s how you connect.
You finish each other’s sentences. Or you often get online to text each other at the same time.
Many people have come into your life and gone, but you just wish this one stays.
Not really because of the “chemistry,” but because the first time that you met it felt like you had known each other for years. Your last thought that evening will be, “I met my best friend today.”
With time you find though you don’t see eye to eye in everything, you very well agree on what really matters. You just trust each other as simple as that.
Even if life was to take you continents apart, you know something was born on your first day that not even distance can ever break. You both just can’t help but admit it – “we are so happy together isn’t it?”
That’s what soul mate simply means.
However, the fact that you feel like you are soul mates doesn’t make you soul mates – so don’t force it otherwise you will break it.
And missing each other deeply is NOT a sign that you are meant for each other.
Sometimes missing each other only means there is a sexual arousal that happens when you think of each other.
When that arousal is satisfied you might even be surprised at how deeply you irritate each other.
There is no one right person.
Every good relationship that came and left was meant to be evidence that good relationships do exist and a promise that they can be found.
So don’t get tangled into this soul mate thing; just focus on settling for a woman with whom you can be yourself without the fear of losing her.
Just look for a suitable mate.
That suitable mate will be your soul mate. Settle for a person you don’t wish to change, and for a person who doesn’t wish to change you.
Just ask yourself, if he/she doesn’t change will I still be able to remain happy? If yes then you have found a good person.
Settle for a person who inspires rather than demands you to change. If you have met that person, you have met your soul mate.
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