AMARA: Why does it seem as if women are brought up with aspirations for marriage and boys can go scot free?
Hi Amara! Women aspire marriage more than boys, is it good or bad? First let’s understand why…
Generally women are more social than men. A woman’s soul thrives on relationships, that is why when a woman has a problem she looks for people to talk to.
She can even call a long-lost high school friend if she is in dire straits.
Men are different. Actually we rather be alone when we are in problems.
Relationships recharge women but they drain men. So for that reason, relationships will always mean more to women than to men.
Women’s desire for marriage is also influenced by how they age. Women’s beauty and fertility, the main assets for attracting a life partner, fade with time.
If she doesn’t settle down before “the clock strikes twelve,” settling down will become even more difficult if not impossible. Men, on the other hand, can remain fertile to the grave.
It is for this reason that nature has groomed women to have a greater sense of urgency for marriage than men.
Men don’t take marriage as a matter of urgency until they near their thirties.
A woman doesn’t need to change this – all you have to do is hang out with a man who has matured enough to feel that urgency.
That means when you are twenty-three years old and want to settle down, you might need to consider dating a twenty-seven-year-old guy onwards.
It is human nature. You don’t have to change it. You just need to know how to utilize that difference. We call that wisdom.
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