SAMANTHA: Why is it that when a woman has big dreams, runs her own business, or is smart at school, almost all men get intimidated by her?
Hi Samantha. Remember David in the Bible? David fought great wars for God, but because of that God said he couldn’t build the temple. His son Solomon was going to build the temple.
It’s because Fighters are not Builders.
The most successful women of our generation have been radical feminists in a great and useful way.
They have been Fighters for the Rights of Women, and it has been a noble and reasonable cause.
Sadly, when you become a fighter, you develop certain qualities that disqualify you from being a builder.
This has always applied to both men and women. The real fighters for human civilization like Isaac Newton failed to get married (Actually Isaac Newton died a virgin).
Even amazing people like Oprah Winfrey and Winnie Mandela fought a great and noble fight for the liberation of women – however, just like David; the ability and drive to fight normally comes in conflict with the ability to build.
So at the beginning men were intimidated of smart and ambitious women, because indeed such women were as competitive in the family as much as they were competitive in the workplace.
When you expected oestrogen (female hormone) behaviour she would give you testosterone (male hormone) behaviour. However, the world has changed now.
Women are now being born who no longer have to be fighters as seriously as the women before them.
Women of today are freer to have great ambitions and have their husbands encourage them.
These are women of intelligence and ambition like the former women, but they are also builders.
Today men want smart women. Actually, nowadays men laugh at uneducated women; they say “all she can offer is the bedroom.”
Most men are NOT intimidated by a woman’s greatness; they are just not sure whether when it comes to family she will be a builder or a fighter.
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