WENDY: Is a person who is in a relationship or marriage entitled to “privacy”, that is, not checking his/her phone, laptop, etc.? Doesn’t the whole concept of privacy lead to lack of trust among couples?
If your partner allows you to view the phone and you find something suspicious in it then beware how you react. Don’t react like he/she was keeping a secret from you.
For example, if your boyfriend doesn’t mind you holding his phone, and then while using it you find out he has been chatting to this strange girl too often – don’t talk to him in such a way that he never wishes to show you his phone again.
Kindly tell him, “Honey, I’m a woman, at the rate that you are chatting with this woman, this may endanger the progress we have already made together.”
“Don’t you trust me?”
“I trust you; it’s that woman that I can’t trust. Just check what time she texted you. Can’t you see she is being too affectionate toward you?”
Sometimes your man will be seeing that another woman is leading him on, but he may need your help rather than your rebuke to let go.
However, if you call him a whore and a flirting slut – he may never show you his cell phone again.
When that happens – he is a lonely man and a lonely man is a vulnerable man.
About Privacy
If you want to make it hard to cheat on each other, just tell each other your cell phones and laptops belong to both of you. Anyone between you can use it.
Remember the power of sin lies in secrecy.
There is a difference between secrecy and privacy.
Privacy is what you do behind closed doors in the toilet. Secret is chatting to someone and NOT wanting your partner to know.
However, also understand you don’t have to keep digging everything about your partner.
There are some things about your partner that you don’t wanna know. There are truths that wouldn’t have affected your relationship in anyway if you had never known about them.
Just let life unfold. If your partner is ready to share with you some things, then you will know.
Use your partner’s phone if you really need to. If it rings only answer if your partner is far away, if your partner is nearby hand over the phone.
Be confident, insecurity makes you unattractive.
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