While writing my book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye, David asked “Sir Moffat, are there types of women I should avoid getting into a relationship with?”
So today let me share with you what I placed in that book – five dating red flags to watch out for in a woman.
Warning to Boys:
To love a scorpion is to set yourself up for a sting. You must learn to recognize red flags in a relationship. The first wisdom tip is…
Don’t just look for someone that you love, look for someone that you can both love and live with.
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
Last time I shared 5 types of men that you should never date…
Today here are the 5 Qualities of a Woman that you should avoid dating at all cost. But if you choose to still love her despite these dating red flags – enter at your own risk!
i) The Woman with a “Worst”
If a woman says or writes “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then don’t think you can be with me at my best” she is warning you! Beware.
Not only does she mean she can’t be handled at her worst behavior, she also means she refuses to be handled when her drama begins.
When I give 10 Qualities of a Good Woman in chapter 8 of How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye I also mention that,
If you keep hugging
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
a thorny tree, you are the one who will always cry.”
Avoid the woman with a worst, or love her at your own risk. (And don’t go telling the world women have drama).
ii) The Materialistic Girl
From the beginning, she complimented the labels on your clothes, your car, and your watch. Yes, you felt good, and that’s because you didn’t realize it was all about what you have and not who you are.
The thinking pattern of a materialistic girl is that,
She defines people according to what they have, not according to who they are.”
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
Never visit her empty-handed because at that point you will mean absolutely nothing to her. She will give you the coldest shoulder of your life.
She is a materialistic girl. That’s a big red flag in a relationship.
Again: Love her at your own risk – just don’t go saying all women are gold diggers.
iii) Miss Taker
She is selfish and self-centered. She believes she is the only person who should be given and she doesn’t have to give.
You have to pass by to see her at her workplace and then also call her when you get home to report you arrived safely and check if she arrived safely too.
She believes “you are the man” therefore when you take her out on a date you should pay for the food, the drinks, and the transport.
On her birthday she expects you to buy her a present but on your birthday she sends a text (She never bothers about a person who is so bothered about her).
If you keep up with this Miss Taker, your love tank will run empty and one day you will feel drained. Miss Taker is a mistake.
iv) The Actor
The actor is that woman who is one thing up the stage and totally something else in backstage.
She smiles at all your friends and her friends but speaks so much negatively about them when out of sight. She is chief of saints and chief of sinners.
She is that girl about whom everyone asks you…
“How in this world do you get along with that girl?” and you go like “Funny enough, all the bad everyone keeps saying she is, she is not like that to me. She is so soft and kind-spoken.”
That’s a big dating red flag right there!
O man! You are in love with an Actor. She is bad!
v) The Manipulative Woman
She says in this world no one cares about her (implying you should give her extra care).
She says everyone who comes into her life always goes away, leaving her alone every time (she hopes that will make you stay).
In fact, she mistakes being pitied for being loved.
If you stay or marry her, it’s all out of pity than out of love. The Manipulative Woman can promise to kill herself if you leave her. Her love is a prison.
Young men, you have been warned. Learn to observe dating red flags, and to avoid these five types of women when you do. They could cost you a large portion of your lifetime. These are all lessons from my free book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye.
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I love the approach that is so brief, precise and to the point. Not the time wasting writing by some pple. Most appreciated
Thanks so much Moffat, this is an eye opening hey, am happily married but I know this will help the boys so much in choosing their life time partners, stay blessed!
O it's lovely hearing from you, and thank you lots for your feedback. Have blessed marriage
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