ABIGAIL: I broke up with my boyfriend and that was my first relationship and now it’s hard for me to get into another relationship again.
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Is it normal? l keep getting this thought “What if I get cheated again.”
O dear Abigail! There are more than three billion men in this world, and from those men you are only supposed to marry one.
There was no-way you were going to pick one right man out of a three billion men at exactly one chance. Some will tell you they did it but I beg you not to be such a perfectionist.
Show yourself some kindness.
I say give yourself more chances to get what you want. You have got to be relentless.
When you hit against a wall, be a tennis ball that bounces rather than a crystal ball that breaks.
The worst thing about a break up is not the pain you feel from being heartbroken; it’s who you become by being heartbroken.
There are events in life that can totally change your personality forever – some of those include losing a parent or falling into a near death experience.
However, one more thing that can alter your personality forever is when your strongest beliefs about life or people are suddenly proven to be false.
This is why a serious heartbreak can alter who you are. It is because you would have believed in someone with all your strength, only to have that belief disappointed.
Such a disappointment can either turn you into a heartbreaker, or into a fearful soul. Every morning you may step into the world as frightened as a mouse in a room full of rocking chairs.
You would find back your peace if only you could see that the cats are fewer than you think, and that all the rest are just rocking chairs!
I say step out there and try again. It may work or it might not. But if you keep the principles I teach in this book – then you shall lose nothing even in a failing relationship.
It will be a break-up without a heartbreak. And one day, someone will step into your life and you will see why it never worked with anyone else.
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