ADRIAN: I have my girlfriend and she is the only one I love and hold feelings for. Now we are not yet married but we have indulged in sex and I felt bad about it.
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Truly I don’t want to have sex until we get married but every time I try to deny her, she feels neglected and says it’s through sex that she really feels loved. What do I do?
It is clear she doesn’t value what you value.
Telling you she doesn’t feel loved is just one of the tricks women use to get man to sleep with them. You are in love but she is in lust.
Love can wait to give but lust can’t wait to get.
Beware lest you continue in a relationship that will teach you habits you will find hard to break.
All I can say is whatever she is asking you to do…that’s exactly what she will advise your daughter.
You don’t marry beauty, you marry character.
Character is the psychological muscle to control impulses.
It is character to control feelings; it is lack of character to be controlled by your feelings.
Life is going to give you distance sometimes, and life is still going to give you temptations. The only woman that you can trust when you are far away is a woman of character.
The only woman who can overcome sexual temptations from other men, is a woman of character.
Bottom line: Life has already given you a cue whether you can live with that woman or not.
You know what you must do, that is if you really care for your values and for who you really are inside. We don’t marry looks, we marry character.
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