AALIYAH: I have issues with my hubby and we are at the edge of separation. It’s been ages since we had slept together. He is cheating.
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Do I need to be in a relationship with someone to be happy again or should I wait?
You mentioned that sleeping together has been an alien in your marriage for quite a long while now.
When you lack something, it is usually possible to regard it as the most important thing anyone should have.
It is possible to step into the world thinking you are looking for a life partner when what your mind is really looking for is merely a sexual partner.
When you divorce, you must give yourself sometime to normalize. View yourself as a little girl again. Tell yourself “sex is not everything, what I really need is a life partner not a sex partner.”
If your partner cheats on you, it is easy to feel like being loose. You may wrongly tell yourself “I was faithful, did things by the book, but I was cheated anyway.”
Those thoughts are harmful. They can make you choose any kind of partner not knowing you are setting yourself for a future that could be worse than your past.
I think it is very good for you to move on and remarry again. But I ask you to take your time. Remember at your age most men are already married, and they are most likely to come claiming to be still single.
You don’t want to discover that he is already married and is a father of two, when you are already pregnant with his baby.
There are good men out there. But you need to be careful in order to find one.
If you follow the principles in this book, a few years from now I’m sure you could contact me saying, you are starting your love life all over again.
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