SKYLAR: Hi Sir Moffat. I’ve been dating this guy for like four years now. I really love him – or maybe that’s what I think. The thing is I feel as though this guy has been using me in these four years.
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He has never even bought me a fifty cent lollipop but I spend more money on him. I even buy him airtime, presents and other things. I really don’t know why I do that.
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I also sacrifice many things for him but I get nothing in return. Maybe I’m just wasting my time! And I mean it, in four years he has never spent even a cent on me.
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Ask me “What does he do in life?” The honest answer is “Nothing.”
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If you ask about his qualifications at school… I’m even ashamed to tell you.
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At Grade ten when I asked him about finishing school he just tried by all means to change the subject. Now I don’t even ask him anymore, he is just not serious about his life. He just doesn’t care!
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This guy does nothing he just says he doesn’t have money. Eish! I just get weak. I think I should take a break or even break up with him. I’ve lots of dreams for myself I wanna live life to the fullest.
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Right now I’m at university I’m still pursuing my education. I think being single will do for me now. Maybe you can help me. I really feel weak now.
Hi Skylar!
I don’t want to say he is broke because that’s just an excuse. Four years is too long – even for the poor. Love is sacrifice.
Either you are in love with a stingy man or most likely you are in love alone.
I know it when a man loves a woman. He can sail seven seas for the one he loves.
Like I wrote in Chapter 7: Separating Boys from Men,
You don’t have a man you have a boy. That is why you are taking care of him, and even more worried about his life than he is… He is a baby.
I’m sorry to say this…but you got nothing to wait for. I don’t mind him being broke, what I can’t stand is the fact that he has no direction.
He is going nowhere very fast. That’s sad, but the saddest thing is that he is taking you along with him. He is weakening you from reaching your greater heights.
Dear…don’t entertain nonsense in your life. Life is too short.
You better be alone than in love with a wrong person, even if it means being single all your life. Don’t be apologetic about it.
Walk away and give yourself three to five months of singleness to refresh. Follow my advice in this book and one day you will send me a message,
“Sir Moffat, I’ve met a God-fearing guy, and am proud to tell you that he is a man and not a boy.”
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