SIPHO: So what’s the rule when it comes to Age differences in relationships?
Adam was made first then Eve. That shows Adam was older than Eve.
Hence according to the first God-given model of marriage – the man should be older than the wife.
A family is an organization, and every organization needs a leader. By God’s design man is supposed to be the head of the house – and if a man is good at his leadership role then even any woman would want that man to be a leader.
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It is easier for a woman to respect the leadership of a man that is older than her than that of a man who is younger.
However, this doesn’t imply that it could be impossible for a woman to respect a younger man.
Younger men should also beware of being controlling and egoistic simply because they are trying to prove themselves in authority.
Being younger doesn’t mean you are despised – though it can often feel that way for most men.
There are times when a man just has to sacrifice his needs for more than just the reason that your wife is woman.
Sometimes you will get extra caring, extra forgiving and extra-spoiling for the subconscious reason that your “female friend” is younger than you.
So when it comes to age difference – it is advisable that the man be older than the woman by two to five years.
The best age difference from all the couples I have helped, and hosted in my seminars, has been four to five years. Anything slightly beyond that can also do.
However, above it all age is NOT just a number. Yes age denotes different levels of maturity most times, but if you can respect each other as adults nothing can stop you.
You just have to recognize that men and women have different strengths, and it doesn’t matter how old a woman is, that doesn’t make her a husband.
It doesn’t matter how young a man is, it doesn’t make him a wife.
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