NB: This is a response to Zandie’s question that she asked on this link.
Zandie, he comes back and leaves you hurt every time. Now you are wondering why he even comes back in the first place…
This guy keeps coming back because boys do come back. Good guys and bad guys have one thing in common – they come back.
Both hurtful and loving guys come back, therefore the fact that he came doesn’t mean he loves you.
I’ve seen boys come back only to ask girls to open their legs; they take what they want and go!
They walk away and never look back as though they just had sex with a tree stub in the middle of a jungle.
I’ve seen boys who come back and make a girl even open her womb; he impregnates her and leaves as if he flashed his sperms down a toilet seat.
Again He comes back, impregnates her for the second time – and still leaves! All this time she will be thinking he has grown up enough to stay or that he has changed.
He is coming back, NOT because he loves you, but because boys do come back. Boys cannot admit loss or defeat.
If he is the hurtful guy like you mentioned, then his coming back to you will be totally for his victory and not yours.
It’s your duty, and your duty alone, to keep your heart; your legs and your womb closed.
He is going to keep coming. He is a hungry lion looking for that pretty gazelle that is too foolish to remain standing when all other gazelles are fleeing for their lives.
Right now he is only asking for a dating relationship, next time he will be asking for sex or for a baby.
He will still promise that he has changed and is even ready to marry you.
Unfortunately, loving him hasn’t changed him and don’t think marrying him will change him either.
Loving a person doesn’t make that person love you; neither does it turn him into good person.
Marriage is just a piece of yellow metal around a finger…it doesn’t change a beast into a prince.
Ladies don’t be fooled by that story of a girl who kissed a frog and it turned into a prince who married her.
Like I write in my book Cinderella Taught me Lessons, we are people in a real world and not fairies in an imaginary fairy land…
Every girl who has, at some time, loved bad guys with all her heart must honestly ask and answer herself this important question,
How many frogs have I kissed in my life and yet they still remained frogs?
Love doesn’t change a beast into a prince, the Beauty and the Beast was a Disney lie!
Right now good guys are letting you go because they think you belong to someone else. I know the hardest part of moving on is never looking back.
But you really don’t have a choice except to be strong for yourself and flee with your life while you are still young enough to use it.
Remember Lot’s wife, she looked back and turned into a pillar of salt. If you keep looking back your life will become stagnant, and you will remain transfixed at a single painful place when God has prepared paradise of love right ahead of you.
True love is always a beautiful thing.
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