AIDEN: Is it right to marry a woman who already has a child with another man? What if he comes back? Wouldn’t it be easy for the lady to go back?
It depends, Aiden, on their reasons for break up.
If they never broke up – but just separated due to distance, or the fact that in-laws didn’t want them to be together, then chances could be high that they still want to be together.
If he dumped her, abused her, or showed in any convincing way that he is bad, then it’s unlikely for them to get back together.
Take some time to listen to her full life story. If she regrets having met him, it may stay that way.
If she doesn’t want to talk about it or if she is still too emotional about that topic – then wait a little because she isn’t over him yet.
Of course if you marry her expect to hear from the “other man” because he will always need to see and maintain his child.
You can’t close out this child from its real dad – not for long.
I say feel free to take as much time as you can to think about this.
Before you choose to marry her, understand the challenges and responsibilities of being a stepdad and marry her determined to overcome all odds.
If you want a tree in your yard, you should be prepared to live with its branches as well.
The most important thing is whether she is a good person or not. If you want a future with someone, you have to look beyond the past.
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