NATHAN: There is a certain girl who knows my relationship with my fiancée but she is pushing me hard to get rid of my girl and fall in love with her. She insists that we will marry each other.
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She has been forcing to pay me a visit. I wasn’t ready for her to see where I stay. One day she boarded my car after church without my will, and we drove all the way to my home. We only chatted and she left.
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The other day the same also happened. But at third time I was tempted to offer her external sexual pleasure. There was no sexual intercourse or penetration.
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On her fourth visit we had sexual intercourse, and she delayed leaving. We ended up sleeping on the same bed.
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My worry is, she seems like a serious Christian and a prayer warrior – but why sex????
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How can I completely get rid of her? Because she might be planning to disturb the strong relationship that I have with my fiancé?
She is using sex to lure you into marriage, and sadly like an ox to the slaughter, you are falling for it.
You say she stepped into your car and house without your will but the truth is you are the one who let her stay. It was your car and it was your house.
Even flies come into our homes without our will but we don’t keep them there. Neither do we fondle or kiss them. We eliminate them.
As for you, she stepped into your car and instead of pulling her out you placed the key into the ignition and drove her to your home.
This lady has come this far because you have helped take her this far.
It is clever for a fly to find a way into your house but it is foolishness for you to share your dinner with it.
If you keep acting weak like this, such women will ruin your life.
Don’t trust such women. She didn’t give birth to you. She has her own agenda when she comes into your life.
This woman is not your mother. She wants to destroy the woman you love. She is complicating your life.
Chase her away the way you get rid of flies in your house. Don’t show dignity, this is not the time for dignity. Your life is crumbling down right before your eyes.
You have fallen into the arms of a strange woman who is described in Proverbs 7. Toward God she is prayerful but toward men she is seductive.
Anyone can talk to God. Even the devil still talks to God.
She slept with you in order to gain power over you. Right now you are afraid to chase her away because she will tell your fiancée.
Well, the truth is your fiancé is going to find out. This woman will make sure to spill the beans, in one way or the other.
Right now as we are speaking you may find that she is already telling other people about the night you spent together. Her strength lies in publicity.
(I really hope she wouldn’t get that far though.)
Most Urgently:
I advise you to put everything in writing. Grab pen and paper, write this Strange Woman a real letter explaining to her how all that happened between the two of you was an absolute mistake.
Remind her that, as you have always said, you definitely can’t be together. Conclude by telling her that by continually seeing each other you will only be destroying each other’s lives…
… Because her time is being wasted every time she is sleeping with a man who doesn’t love her.
Afterwards: Make a photocopy of that letter. Keep the photocopy in a safe place. If she tells your fiancée before you do, you can produce that letter and to some extent prove to your fiancée that your repentance is true.
LAST WORDS: The real reason this strange woman has come this far into your life is that you never told her that you don’t love her.
I’m very sure you played and acted like you did. You were undecided, and the real problem with indecision is that you risk losing everything.
The chances are high that your fiancée will know about it, so I advise you to be the first to tell her.
You could write it as a very long and well detailed letter, place the date, and give her personally.
She will get angry, she will say she hates you – but if you keep telling her that you are sorry she will understand.
Though telling your fiancée doesn’t guarantee you will end up together, marrying her with this secret will surely make you very unhappy.
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