If you are the one who messed up and you are really sure you could right your wrong – then maybe trying to get back with your ex could be a good idea.
If it was your partner who messed up, or if you just want to get back together because you can’t stand seeing your partner happy with someone else – then it’s most likely getting back together won’t keep you together for long.
Actually, couples who get back together have a higher chance of breaking up again.
That is because most times people don’t change as much as they promise to.
If your reasons for getting back together are good enough then the following tips will work great for you…
i. Restore contact
If you are far away just maintain simple texts and short calls. Text after three days or a week depending on the response.
Please, if your partner opens up it doesn’t mean he/she wants you back!
Don’t ask too many questions – stick to general issues such as a long day’s work, or just send a good night message.
If you don’t get a response on two messages then make sure to stop for a month or so. The red flags are still flapping high in the sky – it’s a no go area.
ii. Ask to meet for just a casual talk
Promise it has nothing to do with the past, and if he/she has forgiven you it would be an honour to meet just one “last” time and just talk on the casual issues of life.
Say that besides the downs you had, you really learnt a lot being together and for that reason – it would still be a helpful and wonderful thing to just meet even once in a “long while” 🙂 and just share tips on life.
iii. Go back to the first day
When you meet keep a joyful atmosphere, refer to the fun stories your partner once raised in the past and together just laugh about it.
Afterwards just mention, once again, that you are really sorry for how things turned out and if there was a way to take back all the pain you caused you would.
Say completely nothing about getting back together.
Instead, just assure your ex the reason why you thought you should meet again is that you think he/she is a great person and should always remember you acknowledge that wherever you go.
iv. That evening
Send your ex a thank you message for deciding to spend the day with you. Again stay in touch, and be friendly and casual.
One of the days ask if you could start talking more often as friends again. If you are asked why, say it’s because you miss the good talks you used to have.
Then promise you will “try” by all means to stick to general issues.
And when you feel like your partner is comfortable, just kindly ask if you could try starting all over.
Say if you had a last chance, you are willing to do better than you did before.
We learn to love, and sometimes we learn through our own mistakes. Now that we know better, we can do better.
However, if you have lost him/her to someone else and he is already married to that person, then simply consider him gone.
Move on with your life. Don’t become a home breaker.
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