Some women have painful attraction – they keep falling for men who bring sorrow and pain. They can’t see the following signs of a bad guy. As I write in the book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye,
The fact that you love him doesn’t mean you can live with him
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
Forewarned is forearmed, here are 5 Types of Guys you should avoid dating no matter how in love you feel. When you see these signs in a guy it’s time to walk away,
i) The Never Settle Down Guy
The guy who invented the first dating site is still single today and still online dating (it’s twenty-six years later). His name is Andrew Conru and he is fifty-one as of year 2017.
Enough about Andrew… In How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye I describe the Never Settle Down Guy.
Most times the Never-Settle-Down Guy, is the sweetest and most skillful dating partner you will ever love. He knows what to say, how to dress and where to take you.
Sadly he can take you anywhere except the future.
He has been dating for a long time now. That’s a red flag in
a relationship.He tells you “We are just for fun,” and he means it. Don’t
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
think your true love for him will change his mind. It won’t.
To love a Never-Settle-Down-Guy is to take a fool’s journey.
You will come back home with nothing except lost time and hopelessness.
- He doesn’t introduce you to his friends or family.
- All of his past love relationships lasted just a few months.
- He has dated so many people you now wonder what he is really looking for.
Those are signs that the future is totally far from his mind.
Yes, you’re what he is looking for, but it’s only for now and NOT for forever.
ii) Casually Committed
The story goes of one rich and famous guy who had married and divorced almost four times in less than five years.
Upon being asked by a magazine article writer if he is married, he sadly paused a little while and then replied, “Occasionally.”
Some men tend to be casually committed. You meet today, get married tomorrow and divorce the day after.
Everything happens fast in that relationship. When it’s suddenly over, you will say,
No wonder our love relationship happened so fast, you were in a hurry to be with someone else.
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
In the article 7 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship, I shared that a casually committed partner is actually a big red flag that most people ignore.
If he has been married and divorced more than twice before, then beware it is most likely you are his next person to marry and divorce.
That’s a dating red flag.
Even if you give him all your commitment, he is casually committed. To him divorce is an easy option. Be cautious – you are treading on very risky ground.
iii) The Beggar in Love
The Beggar in Love is that guy who is broke and has no plans. He dates a wealthy woman for a living.
He knows how to appeal to a woman’s motherly instincts and make her take care of him. He will drive her car, live in her home, eat her food, and dress up from her credit card.
If a man is merely going through a rough patch in his life, you can see him struggling to get himself out of it.
Sadly the Beggar In Love sleeps and watches TV all day, he brings his friends over and they party.
He is NOT looking for another profession because begging in love is his profession.
Sometimes it’s not really money that he begs for. Some guys tell you all the sad stories of their past to seize your feminine sympathy. We all have situations in our past, but we find help.
We don’t burden our partners; we go to life doctors and seek help.
He doesn’t want to heal because he is benefiting from your sympathy.
He must go on a journey of healing before he goes on a journey of love. You are not meant to fix him.
iv) Mr. I’m Right
Don’t confuse Mr Right with Mr I’m Right.
Both Mr Right and Mr I’m Right desire to be on the right side of life.
Both Mr Right and Mr I’m Right do get things wrong sometimes.
The only difference is: Mr I’m Right tries to remain right by denying that he is wrong; while Mr Right comes back to what is right by quickly admitting that he is wrong.
Mr I’m Right has a resistance against the truth, while Mr Right has repentance towards the truth.
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
So as you are looking for Mr Right beware of Mr I’m Right.
Personally, I fear to follow a man who can never be wrong. A man who refuses to admit a mistake is actually making another mistake.
Avoid the man who surrounds himself with sycophants – people who nod yes to everything he says. He talks mostly about himself and is disturbed by any opinion different from his.
You will always feel like an accessory in his presence — an inferior tool designed to caress his ego.
v) Sex Prowler
You know he is a bad guy if he keeps pressurizing you to give him sex.
Some guys force you physically, and some guys force you emotionally. Emotional force is what we call pressurizing.
Emotional force and physical force are the same because they are both means of getting sex without regard for the values of the person whom you are getting it from.
There are methods that a guy can use to manipulate and convince you to have sex with him – even when it’s against your plans. You will find those in the rest of the FREE book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye
Conclusion
Here are the 5 qualities of a man that you should avoid dating at all costs. But if you choose to love him despite these dating red flags still – enter at your own risk!
