I once posted an article on 5 Types of Guys to Avoiding Dating at all Costs. Today I’m answering one of the biggest questions in love relationships.
Why do Good Girls Find Bad Guys? And if bad boys really like being bad, why don’t they just find bad girls too?
Well, let’s face it dear sometimes bad things happen to good people. And if that bad is a person, there are three reasons in the free book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye, on why good girls let bad guys stay.
Today let me share with you two of those causes, the rest you will get from the book…
The good girl keeps a bad guy because,
She Thinks She Can Change Him…
It’s like Beauty and the Beast. He is rough, and you are gentle. He doesn’t care, but you care too much. He breaks your heart every time…
In the book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye I say,
Bad people stay because we let them stay. We let them stay because we believe we can fix them.
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
But if his mum and dad couldn’t change him, what makes you think you can?
You can never give someone more love than you give yourself, and you will be risking your life if your try.
If you can’t delete the bad, then you can’t make space for the good.
Some people are just unhealthy for you. Some relationships are worth letting go.
A bad guy is bad for you!
She is Curious…
They say “curiosity killed the cat” but I’m sure curiosity has killed good girls more than anything else. (And at least cats have nine lives).
Your mum raised you well, but you fall in love with this guy who changes everything about you – from how you dress, what you drink, and even how you talk to your mum…
You are a good girl going bad…
Do you know why?
You are obsessed with him because he takes you to this world that you didn’t grow up seeing.
You want to discover the other side of life that you feel lacking in your own life.
In the book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye I write,
The saddest moment comes when you realize what you were missing out wasn’t worth the high price you paid to get it.
What you were missing out were simply habits that you now have to pay more in order to break.
It’s sad how good people can so badly wish to have a life that they will soon wish they never had.
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
Stay content. Be proud of being good!
NB: Special Note
If you have often been mistreated in love hoping that one day your partner will change… 🙁
Remember what I say in the book How I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye…
If you want a good person, then love a good person. Don’t waste time trying to turn bad people into good ones.
You are NOT their mum or dad, and you are NOT a recycling machine!”
– MOFFAT MACHINGURA
If I want to change you, then I don’t love you – instead, I love the person I wish you could become.
You are not in love with this person, you are merely in love with the idea of being in love.
If you want a good person, then love a good person. Don’t waste time trying to turn bad people into good ones. You are NOT their mum or dad, and you are NOT a recycling machine!
You are not in love with this person, you are merely in love with the idea of being in love.
Thank you sir I'm in this kind of a relationship😭 only to have discovered it now thank for being an eye opener 🙏
I wish you the best in your journey of finding love.
Remember – it’s either you get a good person or NOT all. Don’t ever settle for red flags simply because you are lonely.